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Why Do People Become Bored With Worship And Church, And How Should They Respond?

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With many people being incredibly busy, it is easy for us to fall into simply going through the motions. Going from one event to the next, we find ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually drained. This rut and mechanical, robotic mentality can sometimes cause believers to become bored with worship on Sundays and ultimately with church. While this occurs with many believers at some point in their lives, the response as followers of Christ is never to stay in this boredom. Our first desire and passion should always be to “love the Lord with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind” (Deut. 6:5; Matt. 22:37). From this commandment, all other desires of the Lord fall into place. However, if we are struggling with boredom and resist the Holy Spirit’s pull to bring us back into alignment, loving the Lord with all our heart becomes pretty difficult. The very definition of “boredom” is a lack of interest and difficulty concentrating on a given subject. Therefore, when we are bored with worship or church, we are saying to the Lord, “I am not focused on what You are trying to teach me and reveal to me, and honestly God, I really don’t care.” The reality is that many people who justify their boredom drop out of church, trying to live out their faith on their own. But, God never meant for Christianity to function solely within an individual. Just read these passages and you’ll see what I mean: James 5:19-20; Hebrews 10:24-25; Colossians 4:16; Ephesians 4:1-16; 1 Corinthians 12:12-31. We as believers are called to gather together, encourage one another, disciple and mentor each other, and sing songs of praise to the glory of the Lord.

So, what does a person do when he or she is bored with worship or is losing interest in church? Before we dig into practical ways that can help to cultivate a love and passion for worship and church, let’s look at the root of the issue: the heart. Our actions, words, and thoughts do not randomly occur, but instead they are birthed from our true beliefs, core values, and desires. If I have a problem with anger and work to erase this sin from my life, that is a good thing. 1 John 2:3 tells us that, “…we have come to know him if we keep his commandments.” However, telling myself that I will just be better and that all I have to do is stop having angry outbursts will get me in trouble; it is slapping a Band-Aid on the problem and only dealing with the symptoms. Rather, address the core issue as to why I am angry and what in my heart is causing my issues. Dealing only with the symptoms serves to delay the needed healing of my heart. I can begin to hide what I am truly feeling, thus living one set of values in public and another in private. Not only does Jesus warn about this in the Gospels (Luke 12:1-3; 18:9-14), but this can also lead to sadness, depression, and a sense of loneliness, for the walls that have been created to keep others from knowing my private life isolate me.

The next step is admitting to ourselves that this feeling of boredom in the church doesn’t happen overnight. It builds over time and will usually take awhile to heal and get through. Consider James 1:14-15. What occurs when we are struggling with boredom is that our first desire has strayed from loving the Lord, drifting instead to personal longings. Before we know it, our thoughts become indifferent toward God, because His plans interfere with the present state of our hearts (our own personal desire has taken top priority over God’s desires). This can then lead to apathy toward the plans God has for us and our church. Before we realize it, we find ourselves bored with God and worship on Sundays. Having our own desires for our lives, such as getting healthy and working out, or encouraging our children in their athletics, is a great thing. But when that desire for a hobby or activity takes precedence over God’s desires, problems will soon arise. 1 Corinthians 8:9 states, “Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak.” While this is in reference to eating food offered to idols, this can also be applied to the freedom we have in taking part in enjoyable activities. This passage is stating that love for God and love of others is to be our top priority. God’s priorities then motivate us, guarding against that which is unfulfilling or boring.

So, we know that the antidote to boredom starts in the heart and will take some time and work to realign our desires to be in harmony with God’s desires. But, how is this practically done? Here are some different steps to take in order to help cultivate a love and passion for worship and church:

 

  • Humble ourselves before the Lord. Admit that the Lord knows best for our lives and has our best interests in mind (Romans 8:28).
  • Focus on our prayer life. It is vitally important that we rely on the power and guidance of the Holy Spirit, who knows our hearts and knows what needs to change so that we can be more like Christ. It is through prayer that we tune into the Spirit and receive guidance and strength. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 calls for us to pray without ceasing, and many other passages speak to the importance of prayer. God can and does work outside of prayer, but the main way that we hear His will is through prayer. Praying to our heavenly Father draws us closer to Him, just as spending time with a dear friend grows our friendship. And, by the Spirit living within us, we grow more in tune to the desires of God, slowly erasing our boredom.
  • Realize that worship and church is not about us. You may have noticed that on the topic of worship, I have not yet mentioned anything about the style of music, the instruments being used, or song choices. Struggling with boredom goes beyond the type of music being played. Many people come to worship on Sundays expecting the sole focus to be about filling them up, a kind of consumerism mentality. But, we miss a huge part of Christianity when we become so focused on ourselves. Hebrews 10:25 calls for believers to regularly come together as a way for us to encourage one another. 1 Corinthians 12:27 states that, “…you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.” Oh how we miss the mark when we come to church only for ourselves! Worship on Sundays is a chance to mourn with our friend as he or she deals with the loss of a loved one or celebrate with other believers as we worship the King of Kings with one voice! The next time we are engaged in worship through music on Sundays, I challenge us to open our eyes and look around at all the people unified in singing praises to God. Let us take notice of other believers around us passionately singing His praises. It will be like a veil has been lifted from our eyes, allowing us to see Christianity from a completely different perspective. Corporate worship unifies believers and binds one another together. Let us pray that the Lord would open our eyes to the people and events around us.
  • Gain perspective on what worship and church means on Sundays. Gathering together on Sundays is more than just following a command of God. It is also a chance for us to grow together in one accord. Ephesians 4:15-16 calls for us to be joined like a building with Christ as the head or cornerstone, each individual working together so that we are built up in love. What better way to do this then each Sunday? Moreover, when we sing together songs about Christ’s death and resurrection, the life we have in Christ, our need and dependence on the Lord, asking forgiveness of sins, etc., it is not only unifying, but it is also a constant reminder of our new life in Christ. Just like in the Lord’s Supper, we remember God’s work of salvation in the past, present, and future through singing. And, when we hear the word being preached in sermons, we have the wonderful opportunity to dive deep into the scriptures to allow the Spirit to work and shape our hearts into the likeness of Jesus. Pray and ask the Lord to give you perspective on why we meet on Sundays.
  • Get involved! Sometimes when we are bored with church, we are saying, “I don’t have anything to do….” I know all of us on staff here at Faith would agree in saying that this couldn’t be further from the truth! There are so many different ministries to get involved with, and if you are looking for God to use you in some way, we would love to sit down with you and talk about how God can use you here at Faith. Even if you are unsure of how God might use you, I promise that He has a special place for you in church. Remember, 1 Corinthians 12:14 tells us that the church consists of many different members, and each believer has a unique talent that has been given by God in order that he or she can serve the body (1 Peter 4:10). 

My desire and hope is that every believer at Faith Baptist Church, every Christian in Wichita Falls, and every follower of Christ in the world would have one true desire for their top priority to be in harmony with the desires of our Lord Jesus Christ. Not once did Jesus or any of the apostles convey that the Christian walk would be easy, and there will be times when all of us will have to wrestle with boredom. But, let us be identified as believers that resist the urge to stay in our boredom and apathy. Let us fall humbly at the Father’s feet, asking the Spirit’s power and guidance to tune our hearts to Him so that we may have a heart that is on fire for His plans.

Kyle Padilla
Minister of Contemporary Worship
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Maintaining a Sweet Fellowship

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Things are going well at Faith.  People are joining our fellowship every week, and even more important, people are coming to Christ.  Years ago my mother used to say, “when a church is really growing and going, you’d better look out,” because Satan will try everything he can to sabotage the Lord’s work.  One of the easiest ways that I have seen him cause disruption is through the fellowship of God’s people.  I am very thankful that God has blessed us with a “sweet fellowship,” but we really must be on our guard and do our parts to keep that fellowship “sweet” as we press forward toward the exciting days that are ahead. 

Avoid complaining and criticizing others.  Many times when others are doing their best to serve the Lord, we tend to say things like, “I would never…”, “they had better not…”, “Can you believe that…”, I’m not going to…”  These are sure ways to squelch the working of the Holy Spirit and the unity of the church as a whole.  There is something to be said for removing the two-by-four from your own eye before you start inspecting the speck in someone else’s eye.  After we have taken care of the self inventory, then we need to focus on others. The book of Hebrews offers some good advice. I like the New Living Translation: “Think of ways to encourage one another to outburst of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25 NLT)  It is amazing what ceasing to be a critic and beginning to think of yourself as a cheer leader can do for those around you. Here’s another idea: when you are tempted to complain, find something to do for the Lord and for others. Then that old complaining spirit will just melt away!

Pray for a forgiving attitude.  It is inevitable that someone will say or do something that hurts each of us at one time or another.  We are human.  A critical, bitter spirit can destroy a fellowship very quickly.  In addition to that, our prayer lives will be hindered.  In Matthew 5, Jesus said that if we just love those who love us, we are not making a difference. Speaking of forgiveness, before reacting to someone who wrongs you, think about how much God has forgiven in your life.  When we consider how we measure up to God’s ideal, it is hard to be critical of others.

Prepare yourself for times when you know that you are more sensitive than usual.  Pray that you will not take passing comments personally; on the other hand, think about the way that your own comments will be taken.  Be sensitive to others’ feelings.

Consider that others’ reactions may have more to do with their own problems than with you.  Pray for guidance.  Show love.  If the time is right, you may even ask if you can pray for them, or even be a good (confidential) listening ear.

Persevere (Never give up).  Holding back communication is a “great” way to destroy a relationship.  Never give in to the schemes of Satan.  His desire is for us to lose our fellowship with each other.  Our Lord’s desire is that we be one, and that we “keep on keeping on.”

We all need to read 1 Corinthians 13 verse by verse and ask ourselves if we are showing love by our actions.

Please understand that when I say these things, I am also reminding myself as well as you.  Walking the walk is an every-day thing, and what a great walk it is!  But, be careful that you keep your eyes on the trail.

To God Be the Glory!!

Doug Burton
Minister of Music and Senior Adults
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